Monday, March 7, 2011

It Is Worth It -- A Public Thank You

On March 1, the Literary Lab launched its latest anthology, NOTES FROM UNDERGROUND. This is my second time being asked to contribute. (My first short story High Tide appears in the GENRE WARS ANTHOLOGY released last year.)

To say I am thrilled beyond words is an understatement. I am in the company this year, as well as last, with some of the most brilliant, innovative, and imaginative writers I have ever read.

As writers, we all stumble through rejections whether from critters, or agents, or publishers. Being chosen to participate for a second time has validated my very fragile ego and shown me, it is WORTH it. All the revising, writing, editing, late nights, early mornings, has shown me, with publication, it IS very much WORTH it.

My parents know I'm writing a book. They have never asked me about it, nor do they seem to care. Neither has ever asked -- How's it going? What are you writing? Is it finished? Neither also does not know, not only have I finished two books, I'm closing in quickly on a third. It seems we have a 'don't ask, don't tell' policy at my house. Which is fine. They do not seem to think I will succeed. (Somedays, truthfully, neither do I.) Of course, it is my deepest desire to prove them wrong.

My mother and I were having a discussion last Friday about the latest shennanigans my ugly, horrible, evil, vile sister-in-law has pulled. She hates my guts, I hate hers right back. Every so often, my mother and I give ourselves a little laugh and figure out things to make her hate me even more. So I said,

"Why don't you call Brother and tell him I published a short story for the second time in an anthology."

(You know those cliches I talked about a few weeks back, quirky eyebrows, raking hands... here's another one -- mouth agape.)

My mother's mouth hung agape, her eyes went wide, and she said after a ten second delay, "You know I don't lie."

And I said, "It's not a lie. My short story was published in the NOTES FROM UNDERGROUND anthology and it's on sale at Amazon for $10-. He can go buy it right now."

Suffice to say, everything I have ever written up to this point, including this post has been WORTH IT, just to see that look on my mother's face.

So THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART

Domey Scott Michelle

For making my literary dreams come true.

45 comments:

Laura Pauling said...

Congrats on being asked again - that's wonderful. And I'm sorry you have a tough time with your family.

Anne Gallagher said...

Laura -- Thanks so much. It really is an honor to be in such great company. And you can't pick your family so it is what it is.

Jennifer Shirk said...

Oh, that's awesome, Anne!!! Congrats!

Don't feel too bad. My family doesn't ask me about my writing either. And although my mom displays my books on her coffee table, she has yet to read any of them. LOL

Yvonne Osborne said...

Hi Anne,
First, congratulations again on this achievement. I'm waiting for my copy to arrive in the mail. It IS worth it. My parents know I wrote a novel but I haven't shared it with them. I'm afraid they would not like it. They've read my poetry but not any of my novels or short stories. Once my mother said, "well, I hope this will be worth all the time you've spent." (She doesn't even know the half of it!) That kinda hurt because I got the impression that she didn't think it would.

I don't like to talk about a wip. It would jinx the project, I think, to talk about it. You have a lot of irons in the writer's fire. You should put the vile sister-in-law in one of your novels, changing the name of course to protect the innocent. That would be sweet revenge.

You will succeed. You already have.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Congratulations! And such a shame your parents aren't more supportive. Don't let that stop you, Anne.

Mac said...

ugly, horrible, evil, vile sister-in-law

LMRO

Hannah Kincade said...

Congratulations! I don't get support from my parents either. Good thing the writer's community is fantabulous!

Anne Gallagher said...

Jennifer -- I know my mother will NEVER read my books even though they're 'G' rated.

Yvonne -- Congrats to you as well. Your mother's comment sounds like what mine would say. And yes, the EVIL one will be going into a book. And I may keep her name just to be spiteful.

Alex -- Thanks. And nothing will stop me at this point. I'm too far in at the deep end.

Mac -- I thought you might enjoy the over abundance of adjectives.

Hannah -- Thanks. If it weren't for this writing community I wouldn't be a writer.

Matthew Rush said...

Very cool. Congrats Anne!

Linda G. said...

Congratulations! That's fantastic! And what a wonderfully satisfying moment telling your mom, too. Enjoy! :)

Stina Lindenblatt said...

Congrats on your big news, Anne. :D

I doubt I'll even tell my parents if I'm ever published or land an agent. My father once made a comment that made it quite clear that unless I'm a bestselling author, he saw no value in my writing. He also referred to my writing as a hobby. :P

Fortunately my husband and in-laws a much more supportive.

Jamie Burch said...

Congratulations, Anne! You are such an inspiration. Thanks again for that wonderful advice! It really meant a lot to me.

Theresa Milstein said...

I'm happy you're in the anthology, which is sitting in my shopping cart as we speak. But I'm sorry you haven't gotten family support. Maybe this will turn things around.

Bish Denham said...

Congratulations Anne! Sorry your people are such patooties. You go girl and prove yourself right!

Saumya said...

Congrats to you!! And I relate about this "don't ask, don't tell" policy. You are very strong for not allowing this to deter you! It used to hurt that close people didn't seem to care. But you know what? They're missing out. Hope that your family sees this now!

Bossy Betty said...

Hey! Congrats! Sorry your peeps don't understand, but you are following your bliss, baby!

Lydia K said...

There is something nice about the validation of a publication, for sure. :)
Good for you!

jbchicoine said...

I think there's a big difference between validation from a parent, and validation from one's peers--they each feed a craving. I wish there were some way that one could compensate for the other, but, alas, I think they are both insatiable!

Michelle Davidson Argyle said...

Oh my goodness! Wow, I just got warm fuzzies. All that work we put into creating the whole physical journal has paid off with this post, too!

It is worth it to get published, but like I've shared on my blog today, getting validated through it shouldn't be and is quickly becoming not my goal. Still, I totally understand why you feel validated through your publications. Completely natural and called for with the attitude from your parents. Let's just say I know a little bit of what you're feeling. :)

scott g.f.bailey said...

Anne, we thank you. The credit is all yours, because you've done all the work.

Anne Gallagher said...

Matt -- Thank you.

Linda -- Satisfying indeed.

Stina -- I'm sorry you have parents like mine. I'm glad your in-laws make up for it.

Jamie -- You're very welcome.

Theresa -- I don't think even if I made the NYT best-seller list it would do any good, but hey, I don't care. I know what's what.

Bish -- Patooties! Lol. My word choice is much stronger than that but I like yours.

Saumya -- They are missing out. And it's their loss.

Betty -- I haven't heard that term in forever but it's very apt. Thanks.

Lydia -- Oh yes, it's magical.

Bridget -- I'd rather receive validation from my peers. It means they understand the struggle.

Glamaliscious -- Thanks so much. I know as I venture further out into the publishing world the validation will come in different forms but for right now, this is it. And it's glorious.

Mr. Bailey -- Thank you very much. I may have done all the work but it was still your choice to make.

E. Elle said...

Hehe! I'm so happy for you! I love those "suck it" moments; I've fortunately been able to have one or two, myself. Sometimes ten seconds of a shocked expression really IS the greatest reward.

coffeelvnmom said...

So happy for you, Anne. I bet the look on your mother's face was PRICELESS! =)

Sarah Ahiers (Falen) said...

LMFAO! That is AWESOME! Go you!

Anne Gallagher said...

E. -- Oh yeah baby, it was Awesome in Sauce.

Jessica -- That is EXACTLY what it was.

Sarah -- Thanks Sarah.

Roland D. Yeomans said...

They say that blood may be thicker than water, but it comes to a boil a lot faster, too. I hate that there is turmoil and hatred with parts of your family. I love that look on your mother's face. May only better things await you, Roland

Talli Roland said...

Aw! That's fantastic, Anne! I love it when you can prove disbelievers wrong.

There are many people in my world who don't 'get it'. That's why it's so great to have such a supportive group of blog buds. We're all there cheering you on, and we GET IT!

Jaydee Morgan said...

I'm glad you got that satisfaction - and much congrats to you - that's a great accomplishment!

Becca Puglisi said...

Congratulations! What an honor to have been asked--talk about validation! It's sad that we sometimes have to persevere IN SPITE of our family, but you seem to be doing well in that area. Keep up the good fight!

Becca @ The Bookshelf Muse

Anne Gallagher said...

Roland -- The hatred wasn't always there and as soon as my brother divorces her, our family will reunite. That's what I'm waiting for.

Talli -- Absolutely. That's why I love blogging so much. I don't have to explain anything because you guys do get it.

Jaydee -- Thanks so much. It means a lot.

Becca -- I still can't really believe it. It IS an honor and I'm completely humbled by it.
Thanks for stopping by.

The Happy Whisk said...

Thank you, Anne. For being a wonderful spirit and fantastic blogger. Keep up the great work. I believe in you.

Christi Goddard said...

Congrats, lady :-) I'm so happy for you!

Donna Hole said...

I am so pleased for you Anne. Both for the publications, and the mouth gaping moment. My family asks frequently "how's the writing going" but they mean it more like "making any money off that silly hobbie of yours?"

They are excited about my getting published in Bewildering Stories with the short story my dad asked me to write for him.

I hope you get a lot more support from your family, but you know we always got your back in here.

I bought Genre Wars, and plan to purchase Underground, but I haven't read all the stories in the first edition. I think I need to go read it cover to cover . .

.......dhole

Anne Gallagher said...

Ivy -- No thank you for being part of the experience.

Christi -- Thanks. Nice to see you out and about.

Donna -- "we always got your back" Thanks Donna. That means a lot. And congrats to you for getting your own short story published.

Out on the prairie said...

Congrats on the text being published. Are you using the in law as a figure in one of your stories?Have you ever thought how someone might have to grovel in what they shovel out alone if you went out of your way to be nice?It has amazed me how well this works and keeps your life going strong.

Anne Gallagher said...

Prairie -- Thank you. The in-law is going in a book. In answer to your question, I took her in when she had no where to go. I helped her find her life path when no one else would lend her a hand. I took care of her children when she was ill. I gave her whatever I had to help her along. And now she repays me with hatred.

No, I will no longer be nice. As a matter of fact, I will probably never see her again so she is of no consequence to me one way or the other. The only thing I regret is not maintaining a relationship with her children. I should have been more forceful with my brother about it, but he too , has been brow-beaten by her. And it is a shame.

Patti said...

Congratulations, that must have been a great feeling.

ali said...

That's both sad and funny. Congrats on the publication, though!

Len Lambert said...

Anne, congratulations on the publication. I'd like to also thank you for the comment you left on my blog today. It means a lot, so thank you.

Elle Strauss said...

Congratulations! It is worth it!

jdcoughlin said...

My mother is a little out there as well. When I told her I had the same agent as Amy Tan, she made some comment about that not being a big deal seeing Amy Tan isn't very famous. Also never asks me about my book. It's fine. I know where it comes from. It has made me a better mother. I ask. I inquire. And I am so happy that you are not letting her stand in your way. You're moving on and celebrating your worth. And we are all with you, Girl!!!! Rock on!!!

Hold my hand: a social worker's blog said...

Oh my goodness, Anne...congratulations!! We--your friends-- are so proud of you. You are wonderful!

Doris

Deniz Bevan said...

Congratulations Anne! How very exciting!

Jayne said...

Hooray! Can you hear my cheer from London?! :)

Congratulations on being asked 'for the second time' - this is brilliant, and it just shows how much they liked your writing the first time around. Well done... and your description of what we go through as writers and then how it feels to make a little headway - oh yes, perfect. x

notesfromnadir said...

Anne,
How great to be published! Mega congrats.

Wonder if your brother will buy a copy?